#TWBT: Let’s Talk About My First Sound Bath Experience

I’ve wanted to try a sound bath for a while now, but every time I looked up different classes online, I realized I couldn’t really afford it at the moment so I kept putting it off.

I have severe paranoia coupled with anxiety, which is a recipe for a mental health disaster. Some really really bad things happen to me when I start to worry about work, people and things that I just shouldn’t be worrying about. I try really hard not to worry, but that just makes me worry even more.

When I found MNDFL, I knew instantly that I really wanted to try the classes that they offer. They have sound baths, breath work sessions, and other kinds of therapy. But of course, as I mentioned, I didn’t really have the funds to do so at the time that I found MNDFL, so I just subscribed to their newsletter and kept getting emails from them.

Fast forward to last week, my birthday came around, and they sent me an email offering a free class as a gift. I got so excited about this. I emailed them back immediately and asked if I could take the sound bath class with Alex Falk on Tuesday, May 22 at 6:30pm on the Upper East Side, and they slotted me for question number 14. I was super hype!

When I got to the studio, I was offered complimentary tea. They had several flavors of Rishi tea, so I got the Tropical Green flavor. I was tempted to try the Tumeric Ginger but I remembered that ginger lowers my blood pressure to the point where I get a migraine, so I opted to not get that one. I very much enjoyed my Tropical Green tea in a MNDFL mug. It was delicious.

As I waited there for about 15 minutes before the class started, I was approached by an employee who asked if it was my first time there. I told her it was, and she asked if I wanted tour. Of course I wanted a tour, so I followed her around. She showed me the studio, which was adorable and tiny. They make great use of the space. There’s a private room where you can sit down and meditate on your own, and all the way in the back is the larger room where they hold guided workshops and sessions.

After a second cup of tea, the class began. Alex Falk led us through some breathing exercises before diving into the sound bath. The whole time I couldn’t stop realizing how uncomfortable my legs were while I sat on the cushion. I just couldn’t find a comfortable position. Every two minutes or so, I’d feel pins and needles in my feet and my ankles would cramp up! I ended up sitting on my side and folding my knees on my left, then on my right when that started to feel uncomfortable again.

Besides the leg situation, I had a really great time with the sound bath session. I think I really needed it, especially after the last couple of weeks. The soothing sounds of the bowls and gongs were absolutely mesmerizing.

Turning 24 made me realize that I need to stop worrying about so many things I can’t control. I think the sound bath session with Alex Falk really helped me to concentrate on myself and my health.

I’ll definitely consider taking another class at MNDFL when I have adequate funds.

Check out MNDFL on the Upper East Side, Greenwich Village, or Williamsburg.

Advertisements

#TWBT: Let’s Talk About Loneliness

The loneliness epidemic is a real thing.

I came across this article from The Cut today called “7 Therapists on What to Do When You Feel Lonely” by Cari Romm, and I immediately knew wanted to respond to it for a #TWBT post.

As the only child of my parents, I spent a lot of time feeling lonely in my 23.9 years. At age 3, I basically begged my mom to put me in a preschool program so I could be around other kids. I remember sitting at the dinner table by myself some days while my mom made dinner just staring into space. I look back on those moments now and realize how lucky I am to have had an imagination. I would have died of boredom.

But my imagination could only take me so far. I would sometimes get really antsy with boredom. My mom will tell you how annoyed she’d get when I uttered the words “I’m bored.” I also had a habit of sighing a lot because of said boredom, to which my mom would ask, “What’s wrong?” My response? You guessed itโ€”“I’m bored.”

I read a lot as a kid. My library card was my best friend, because it gave me access to a world of story characters I could get to know on a personal level. Even though I made friends at school, I still had lonely weekends and summers, so I escaped into fiction most of the time to get out of my lonely funk.

As an adult, I have roommates, so I’m not lonely that often. The people I’ve lived with and currently live with have pets, which are always fun to have around if you’re prone to feeling lonely, as the article mentions.

One of the therapists in the article suggests making small talk with strangers during daily tasks like shopping at the grocery store and getting coffee. I’m not sure that’s really an option for socially awkward loners, though. As an ambivert, I can’t even make small talk on a good day sometimes, much less look the Starbucks barista in the eye when I spell out my name for them. It takes a lot of guts for some people to talk to strangers, so I’m not sure that suggestion would work well for everyone.

Another suggestion in the article is to get comfortable with your own company. I feel like this is super important. This is how I got through most of my periods of loneliness without going completely insane. I read books, took myself to a movie once since none of my friends were in town when I wanted to see it, danced around my room like a crazy lady (I still do this quite often), etc. You can have all the friends in the world and still feel lonely at times, so it is very important to get used to being your own company.

Forcing yourself into social situations also helps, as another therapist suggests. Joining a book club, community sports team, etc. can help you find people you’ll probably have a lot in common with. Since you’ll most likely be seeing people in said club or team multiple weeks in a row, you’ll have time to muster up the courage to talk to some of the members and perhaps make plans to meet with them outside of the club’s meeting times.

A suggestion that really stood out to me in the article is finding a personal interest to get involved in. I’m gonna be real hereโ€”I probably would still feel lonely a lot of the time if I didn’t have this blog. I start to relapse every now and then when I haven’t written a blog post for a while. Finding fulfilling hobbies is essential to learning how to be content with your own company. I used to overthink so many things when I felt lonely because my brain had nothing else to chew on. Keeping yourself busy with something fun really helps.

Be sure to check out the article on The Cut.

#TWBT: Let’s Talk About Lucifer, Det. Decker & Lt. Pierce

chloe pierce lucifer love triangle

Top: Lucifer & Chloe, Bottom: Pierce & Chloe. Team Lucifer all the way.

SPOILER ALERT:ย If you have not caught up on season 3 of Lucifer on FOX, please do not blame me for spoiling anything if you choose to read this post.

I’ve put off writing this for several days after trying to recuperate from watching the preview for next week’s episode of Lucifer titled “Anything Pierce Can Do I Can Do Better.” It flashed before me on the TV screen immediately at the end of this Monday’s episode “Angel of San Bernadino,” leaving me little time to process what Lt. Pierce is about to do and how Chloe might respond.

So yeah, this whole love triangle between Lucifer Morningstar, Detective Chloe Decker and Lt. Marcus Pierce is driving me nuts.

The fact that I’d prefer Lucifer and Chloe be together aside, everything about the romantic content in the last couple of episodes is completely and utterly cruel.

Let’s start off with the sad reality that Chloe is a pawn in this triangle. Lucifer’s father (aka God) put Chloe on earth with the help of Lucifer’s brother, the angel Amenadiel, as an answer to the Decker family’s prayers for a child long ago.

Lovely. That’s perfectly wonderful. I love stories about miracle children. But then Lucifer had to go live in Los Angeles after leaving hell and end up working alongside miracle Chloe Decker at the LAPD. Which would also be fine, however, he also winds up falling for her. Of course, Lucifer thinks this desire to be with Chloe is his father’s way of punishing him.

Both Chloe and Lucifer are stubborn enough to tip toe around this romantic tension.

Fast forward to season 3. Now we have an immortal human lieutenant at the LAPD, Marcus Pierce, (aka CAIN, yes, you read the name correctly) who figures with Lucifer that he might be able to finally die if a human can fall in love with him.

Insert Chloe Decker.

THE CRUELTY.

As soon as Lucifer decides to back off and give Chloe some space, Pierce swoops in. The evil demon Maze helps, making my skin crawl even more. Chloe almost says the three words, but Pierce stops her, unable to go through with it. Doesn’t matter though, because his mark of immortality disappears AND HE’S STILL ALIVE.

If I hadn’t seen the preview for next week’s episode, I’d be all “This damn Pierce better not even try pursuing Chloe again as a mortal being.” But I’m not. I’m wallowing in sadness because I’VE SEEN INTENSE EVIDENCE OF HIM DOING SO.

Pierce was willing to make Chloe suffer to get what he wanted, so I don’t care what he tries to do to redeem himself at this point. It’s not going to win me over.

I guess I can only hope it won’t win Chloe over either. Lucifer needs to snap out of it and be real with Chloe.

If only Chloe would believe anything Lucifer says about actually being the devil, maybe we’d get somewhere with this.

Meanwhile, mood:

#TWBT: Let’s Talk About boohoo’s Zendaya Edit

zendaya edit boohoo

Welcome to the first installment of #TWBT (The Whisper Box Talk) where I discuss happenings in the world of pop culture and entertainment!

As most boohoo shoppers probably did, I got a promotional email from the UK brand about The Zendaya Edit a few days ago. Some of you may already know this, but if you don’t I’ll make it explicitly known right now that I LOVE Zendaya Coleman’s style. It’s so eclectic and sometimes risky, which makes it so much fun to keep up with.

Needless to say, I clicked through to the edit immediately. I didn’t expect to be disappointed, and I definitely wasn’t.

While scrolling through the edit, I noticed many of the color schemes where quite subtle, with lots of white and yellow. There are some bold pieces in the edit with vibrant blues and colorful stripes, but for the most part, Zendaya seems to be going for a calm spring vibe with these pieces.

One of the most interesting ensembles from the photoshoot Zendaya did for this edit is the stripe satin ruffle maxi dress in red and white. She pairs the sweet dress with a pair of robust sneakers, which just goes to show how much of a risk taker the actress is with her fashion choices. She does the same with a pastel blue maxi dress of similar style.

I think my favorite piece from the edit by far is the striped maxi duster coat, not only because I’d totally splurge to buy it, but because I think it truly embodies Zendaya’s fierce and unapologetic style.

Even Paris Hilton is rocking it!

I also wouldn’t mind getting cozy in this pink sweater or going sporty chic in this blue bodycon dress with orange and yellow stripes.

So far, the edit has received complaints for not having plus sizes. It appears the plus sizes sold out first and will be restocked, according to boohoo. Regardless, I don’t think Zendaya should have to choose clothing for an edit that she can’t personally model herself, as she isn’t plus sized.

Maybe boohoo will get a plus sized actress or musician for their summer edit?

Shop The Zendaya Edit over on boohoo.com.